Is Fear Keeping Your Life Tiny?

Tiny-house

Tiny houses – they are the latest craze! Often mobile, these wee homes that are typically between 100 and 400 square feet, rarely more than 500 square feet. That’s small! Perhaps, just a hair bigger than the room you had growing up!

There are a variety of reasons people are attracted to the tiny house lifestyle, including the lower cost of living, smaller carbon footprint, and the ability to transport your home. I confess, I find watching the various tiny house shows on HGTV and other networks fascinating. It is remarkable how they are able to puzzle together so many features into such a tight space.

As intriguing as it is to explore the tiny homes, I just can’t see myself actually living in one! Maybe if I lived alone I might be able to do it… maybe! More than me – no way! Funny thing, many others have come to the same conclusion, including the couple who created the movie Tiny – A Story About Living Small to document their tiny house story. While never stated in the movie, the couple never actually lived full time in their tiny abode!

I have a theory… most of us want to progress past that childhood bedroom-size dwelling. While it does not need to be extravagant, space is a good thing! You could say that it represents freedom.

Yet you might be living in a tiny house and not even know it! Is fear keeping your life small?

Fear is a powerful. Fear keeps you comfortable inside its familiar walls. And fear keeps you from growing and becoming all that you need to be to fully walk in what God has called you to do! Whatever God has for you – it will not be inside your comfort zone!

Fear…

  • Traps you inside your comfort zone and keeps you snuggled up with the familiar.
  • Keeps you passively waiting – aka stuck.
  • Prevents you from embracing change.
  • Stunts your growth.
  • Inhibits you from trying new things and taking risks.
  • Weakens you and makes you feel small.
  • Never has your best interest in mind!

Perhaps worst of all, fear twists your perception of the world tricking you into thinking that failure is easy and that success is hard.

We are supposed to fear God in a reverential way. Instead, we don’t fear God and we fear everything else. That’s messed up! Often our attempts to manage fear only perpetuates it, causing the very thing we were trying to avoid to happen.

So how do you ditch your tiny lifestyle?

We start at the beginning… the source of love: God. (I John 4:8)

His love makes us complete! Yes, 100% complete! (I John 4:12)

If the God of the universe loves you, and He does, that’s big! In fact, He loved you enough to send His Son to earth to die to take the punishment for your sin so that He might enjoy a relationship with you because He thinks you are worth it! I John 3:16

When you accept His love and believe that He values your life, it will shape your choices. It will keep fear at bay.

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. I John 4:18

The next time fear creeps in, remember…

1. You are loved by God!

Spend time with Him. Remind yourself – you are loved by God. He is with you! Dwell on this truth.

2. To love others

Allow God’s love to flow through you and love others. Make that your focus! He doesn’t lavish you will love to keep it all to yourself!

3. To rejoice

When you feel fear it means you are taking a growth step!

4. To accept yourself

Yes, right where you are! You see a healthy sense of self-worth is what will make leaving your comfort zone possible. Your self-worth is what will determine whether you interpret change as danger and something to be avoided or possibility and something to be embraced.

Fear is about your beliefs

You see, pleasure is quite motivating; venturing outside of your comfort zone and into the unknown – that might be painful, so you hang back in your tiny space. Unfortunately, when fear is clouding your perception, it is rarely accurate.

When fear pops up, you can’t will it away. Sooner or later, your feelings will override your willpower. That’s because when you boil fear down… it is about your beliefs. That’s why learning to make the changes needed to succeed is really about learning to believe… believe that God loves you, that you are valuable in His sight… and that He will help you venture outside of your tiny house.

When you are operating out of the loved perspective, it will not only impact your self-esteem, but also change how you see stepping outside your comfort zone. From that place it is an adventure, an opportunity, and something that is exciting not something to be feared. That changes everything!

Did you know that resisting change makes you rigid? Embracing change keeps you flexible. Let’s just say that there is not much room to stretch in a tiny house!

Just like many of the featured tiny house dwellers have resorted to weekend living or the occasional get-a-ways in their tiny homes, I trust that your time spent in your tiny house becomes less and less frequent. Why not embrace the wide open spaces of God’s grace?

And that’s not all: We throw open our doors to God and discover at the same moment that he has already thrown open his door to us. We find ourselves standing where we always hoped we might stand – out in the wide open spaces of God’s grace and glory, standing tall and shouting our praise. Romans 12:2 (MSG)

How would your life be different if you gave up the tiny lifestyle?

Marvae Eikanas

Marvae Eikanas

Marvae Eikanas is an author, entrepreneur, ICF certified coach, DISC consultant, and HBDI practitioner. She helps clients expand their possibilities—and become the leaders God made them to be!

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