The Secret to Eliminating Expectations

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This year, my full of spunk grandson was old enough to participate in a creative project, so part of our post-Thanksgiving celebration included decorating gingerbread men and a gingerbread house together. Artfully arranging decorations (we never called them candy – in fact it was only by accident that he realized they were edible after all the decorating was done!) on the gingerbread men and the house provided hours of entertainment. Exceedingly longer than would normally be anticipated for a 2 ½ year old! When all eight men and the house were complete, he was pleased as punch at what his … Read More

6 Beliefs That Might Be Limiting You!

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Humans have limiting beliefs. Leaders have limiting beliefs. One of those pesky limiting beliefs popped up in a recent coaching session I had with a group of leaders. They were feeling the pressure of deadlines and being understaffed around the holidays due to team members taking time off, all while trying to embrace some new skills. The prevailing sentiment was that they would have to wait to integrate the new learning (Do NOTHING) because they didn’t have the time it would take to fully utilize the new tools right now (Do it ALL). Limiting beliefs are sly! They often take … Read More

The Secret to Intentionally Tuning Into Your Heart

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When was the last time you tuned into your heart and really listened to what it was telling you? Sometimes the reception to my heart gets a little fuzzy. It reminds me a lot of the radio reception in my car on long drives. The further away from home I get, the more my favorite radio station begins to break up, becoming more and more difficult to understand. Distance isn’t the only thing that seems to affect my radio reception. It struggles on cloudy days and once it gets dark. Listening to my favorite station is pointless in those conditions! … Read More

3 Reasons You Might be Addicted to Stress

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There is nothing wrong with getting things done! The trick is striking the tension between getting things done and making time to relax. Attempting to do more than is realistic creates stress. By now you have gathered that I like to get things done! In fact, I am able to get a surprising number of things done. Relaxing, on the other hand, that does not come so naturally to me! It is something I have to intentionally work at! I have been challenged by my One Word for 2016: RECEIVE, to slow down and “receive” the gift of a more … Read More

Your Words: Healing or Hurting?

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Have you experienced this phenomenon? You settle in behind the wheel of your car, insert your keys to start your engine, and begin heading to your destination. Before you know it, you arrive with no real memory of the journey. Somewhere after leaving your driveway, you zone out and make the trek on auto pilot. Routine activities like driving often get less and less of your attention, especially as your life becomes more demanding. It is a bit frightening to imagine how many drivers on the road are far from present, risking safety for themselves and others. Those same stressors … Read More

4 Steps to Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs

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Chains

For over a century the elephant has been the face of the circus delighting young and old. Elephants are huge and powerful wild animals. In fact, depending on the type of elephant, they can weigh 200 – 250 pounds at birth and reach between 2.5 tons and 7 tons as adults. That’s hefty! How do you turn an elephant into a circus performer? It is a methodical and sometimes cruel process. As babies, elephants are taught to have respect for their trainers through a system of rewards when they obey, and pain when they don’t. When an elephant is a … Read More

7 Surprising Steps to Overcoming the Fear of Failure

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During a break in a leadership team meeting, the discussion suddenly got interesting. I vividly remember the question being posed: How do you feel about failure? My response was: I do not like to fail. I avoid it at all costs! That response was met with chuckles. Looking back on that memorable moment I see how my view of failure has changed! You see, at that time failure was a little like this to me: The challenge is on. The tight rope is stretched out before me and the balance pole is in hand. A gentle breeze eases the perspiration … Read More

3 Roadblocks Leaders Bump Into

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Roadblock

Some people are natural leaders. Even at an early age they tend to be bossy, have big ideas, and get others to follow. I was that child. If we played school, I was the teacher. I organized activities. I managed the lemonade stand. Sometimes it was not pretty! Thankfully, I have learned a few things over the years! I have learned to harness my bossiness and discovered more palatable ways of motivating others in order to successfully lead. Maybe you can relate to my childhood, or maybe you were more of a follower. Leadership is a strange phenomenon. There are … Read More

7 Things That Undermine Your Confidence

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At times I have thought that my wardrobe, experience, credentials, connections, or a bold attitude would give me confidence. These things are helpful, but they are not the source of confidence. In college, I decided to take a law class my freshman year despite it being an upper level class. The subject seemed interesting, it fit my schedule, and, having done well in high school, I didn’t even think twice about the level of the course until the first day of class. I soon realized that the others in the class were far more experienced college students than I was. … Read More