What Can You Learn About Leadership From a Dancer?

MarvaeLeadership4 Comments

Illustration of a man and woman dancing on a stage

Dance is something that I am quite fond of. In my college days, I would don my dancing shoes several nights a week. Aside from the salsa lessons my husband and I took a few years back, I have never had any formal training and it shows. I am a freeform dancer and not very good! While dancing is not really in my gift mix, I have a great appreciation for those that are able to skillfully perform. My husband and I have never missed a season of So You Think You Can Dance and adore seeing the Alvin Ailey … Read More

What’s Your Monster’s Name?

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Image of a blue furry monster growling

Inside me is a monster; most of the time he slumbers peacefully and goes unnoticed. The monster can hibernate for days, weeks, even months, and then rudely be awakened in an instant! The moment the monster stirs, things begin to spin, I lose perspective and chaos ensues. This past weekend, the monster was roused and immediately got busy creating his special brand of confusion. He set me reeling. Focusing seemed impossible. My cherished goals lay limp. Things that normally would have motivated me did not interest me. I know I am not alone! We all have encountered the monster: Fear … Read More

6 Steps to Becoming a Leader Others Want to Follow

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I am a wave-with-a-smile kind of gal. On my daily walks in my neighborhood, I make it a habit to wave and smile at everyone that passes by. This has not always been the case. In the past, I have been a wave-with-a-smile-if-you-waved-first kind of gal like Mr. Frank (not his real name), a loveable but crotchety older gentleman in my old neighborhood that shared my love of walking. He would complain daily about how unfriendly everyone in the neighborhood was each time we crossed paths. One day I finally asked Mr. Frank, “Do you wave and smile at everyone … Read More

7 Steps to Banishing Burnout and Walk in Shoes that Fit!

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Photo of men's dress shoes and women's heels

My husband is a road warrior. When he is working, he is traveling. He thrives on variety and change; the adventure of a new place, a new crowd to train, and a new topic to teach. While my husband and I share a love of learning, we are different. I don’t dislike travel, but I am more of a homebody who gravitates toward routine and consistency. If I had to walk in my husband’s shoes, my shoes would be tired and sad. A dear friend of mine is a nurse. She worked incredibly hard after her boys were grown to … Read More

7 Things That Lurk Beneath Excuses

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Illustration of a cartoon girl drying her hair

Back when I was in elementary school, I was invited to a slumber party to celebrate a friend’s birthday. Most girls love slumber parties. I am not most girls. In spite of my outgoing nature, I actually appreciate solitude, and quiet, small groups – all the things that a slumber party is not. So rather than decline the invitation, I gave my friend the excuse that I needed to wash my hair that night. I can’t explain why that was my excuse, but it was. My mother performed a complicated nightly procedure to turn my fine hair into a fluffy … Read More

Are You An Elephant or A Hippo?

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Illustration of an elephant and a hippopottamus

They are everywhere! You find them at home, at work, in ministries, neighborhoods, social circles and more; people who take the lead, like you. Even if you don’t lead others, you have the responsibility of leading yourself. We need leaders. They guide us through necessary changes so that together we can reach desired destinations. And yet, not all leaders are great leaders. Some leaders are like elephants, and some are like hippos. Which kind of leader are you? Both elephants and hippos are among the largest land mammals and are considered dangerous. They are both hairless and have tusks. The … Read More

Get Moving! 6 Questions to Help You Create Momentum

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Illustration of a road leading up a hill

My neighborhood is a walker’s paradise. The views are inspiring and the steep hills a challenging workout. Initially the hills were an effort. They left me huffing. Navigating the hills daily it has gotten easier, and I have learned a few things in the process: In order to get up the hill you have to start climbing, and once you are on the hill don’t stop. Momentum matters! Momentum is the product of mass and velocity, or in everyday language, size and speed. When it comes to traversing hills, the size of the hill and the pace I climb it … Read More

Consistency Matters! 7 Steps to Becoming More Consistent

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Photo of a stack of pancakes topped with berries and syrup

Have you ever noticed how your desire to do a thing intensifies when you aren’t able to do it? We are about halfway through our kitchen renovation and I am itching to cook! We still lack a stove, sink and dishwasher, but this morning I was able to make pancakes in my electric skillet. After a couple of weeks of eating dry cereal, I was smiling! There are several things that contribute to making a great pancake, including the proper batter consistency. Too thick and it will be dry and difficult to pour. Too runny and the pancakes will spread … Read More

Are You a Fighter?

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Last year my “One Word” was proactive. As the year progressed, it became clear that God had chosen that word for me. He knew I would be facing a variety of circumstances that would require me to be decisive and take action. It was a powerful learning experience. Rarely is God satisfied with a single lesson in my life. He always has much more to teach me. This year my “One Word” is “Faith-Full.”  I know, it’s sort of made up word that I have received much grief about from my English-inclined family members. I can’t argue with God. He … Read More

Confused by Coaching? 12 Reasons Coaching Could be for You.

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Despite the ever-increasing number of life coaches in the world, most people nod and smile when I tell them I am a Certified Christian Life Coach. They have a vague idea of what a coach does, maybe. To be honest, prior to my training and certification process, my own knowledge was a little fuzzy. I knew I wanted to do something to influence leaders and help them reach their full potential. Coaching seemed like a useful, fascinating, and inspiring way to accomplish that goal. In the various leadership roles I’d held over my 23 plus years in ministry and business, … Read More