7 Things That Undermine Your Confidence

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At times I have thought that my wardrobe, experience, credentials, connections, or a bold attitude would give me confidence. These things are helpful, but they are not the source of confidence. In college, I decided to take a law class my freshman year despite it being an upper level class. The subject seemed interesting, it fit my schedule, and, having done well in high school, I didn’t even think twice about the level of the course until the first day of class. I soon realized that the others in the class were far more experienced college students than I was. … Read More

Even Miss Independent Has One!

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From the time I was a little girl I liked doing things myself! Independent is an understatement! I had big ideas, big plans, and asking for help was always a last resort! I have gotten no less independent with age, but I have learned the importance of enlisting the help of others. That’s why I have my own Life Coach. Yes, this Life Coach has her own delightful Life Coach! I have regular appointments with my Life Coach and those coaching times push me to be better in all areas of my life. I am thankful for the supportive relationship … Read More

The Rub

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I shifted. I tugged. The tag just kept rubbing me the wrong way! It didn’t matter that it was one of my favorite blouses; I couldn’t wait to change clothes! Maybe I am extra sensitive, but tags can rub you raw and leave a mark! It made me wish that all clothes had followed suit with Hanes, who launched the memorable “go tagless” campaign back in 2002. The “go tagless” campaign was spurred on by two factors: flat sales and their reputation for comfort. It worked! Hanes enjoyed a 70% increase in sales and got people talking about their underwear! … Read More

Lessons Learned from an Exploding Band

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I like to work out. I know most people don’t, but I actually enjoy it. I especially enjoy variety – walking, circuit training, Pilates, weights, kickboxing: anything to get the muscles working and the heart revving.  After a workout, my mind is always clearer, and I feel stronger and have more energy! I had a funny moment in the middle of a challenging Pilates band workout recently. While lying flat on my back, legs and arms outstretched with the middle of the band around the arches of my feet and the ends tightly in my hands, the band suddenly split … Read More

Porcupine Encounters

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When you interact with people, you are sure to encounter a few “prickly” ones! These are the people that John Ortberg refers to as “porcupines” in his book Everybody’s Normal Till You Get to Know Them. We all long to be close to others, but often we operate out of the “poke you before you poke me mentality.” As leaders, it is inevitable that you will encounter porcupines. The real question is how will you make nice with the porcupines in your life? In today’s world, people tend to be especially prickly in e-mails. Sometimes it is because you don’t … Read More

What’s the Big Deal?

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When my oldest son was younger, like many young children, he whined and cried when things didn’t go his way. He heard the phrases “stop whining” and “stop crying” so often that he would reply with, “I am not cryning.” Recently, God has been gently pointing out all the “cryning” I have been doing. When life is uncertain the human thing to do is grumble, complain, whine, or cry. The “in-between” places in life are uncomfortable. While the Israelites were “in-between” in the wilderness they grumbled and complained about God’s miraculous provision. Sadly, I do the same thing. The past … Read More

Past the Picket Fence

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There was a time when I imagined myself arriving in life and living in a house with a white picket fence. Life would be neat and tidy because my hard efforts would have paid off. Life would be good. So far, that day has not come. I have been blessed in many ways and I love my house, but life is rarely neat and tidy. Even more importantly, I have realized that a “neat and tidy” life is not the goal. The goal is a life that glorifies God. A life where He shines in the midst of my chaos! … Read More


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You don’t have to live in the Atlanta area to know that last week’s storm created a lot of drama! A measly three inches of snow turned ice stranded thousands of motorists on the interstates overnight. More than a hundred people were injured. Many abandoned their cars in pursuit of food, water and warmth, turning the freeways into parking lots. Parents were unable to pick up their children, forcing schools to become shelters. And in the midst of the craziness, the weather mess also created the chance for many to reach out and help those in need while others whooped … Read More

6 Ways to Becoming a More Balanced Leader

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Balance is a tricky thing. It is about control. Balance is achieved when there is just the right tension between strength and flexibility. Muscles that are overworked are stretched their flexibility limiting the range of motion and affecting balance. Muscles that are less tight, but lack strength, also upset balance. Balance requires your entire body to work together: your brain, eyes, ears, and stabilizing muscles. It requires significant kinesthetic awareness. And when you have great balance it helps to prevent injury. Falling down can be painful – just ask a toddler learning to walk! The idea of balance applies to … Read More

Your Life: Passive or on Purpose?

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Over the years I have had the delight of teaching children of all ages, and my favorite age to work with are the preschoolers. Preschoolers approach life in a way that is innocent, inspiring, and humorous. Preschoolers dream big. They embrace possibilities. They have not yet encountered the world that dashes dreams and hampers confidence. I think it is just one of the many characteristics that God treasures in children! When you ask a preschooler what they want to be when they grow up, they boldly share that they want to go to the moon or be a garbage man. … Read More